Although it is never too late, many parents who create their families through sperm or egg donation or adoption often tell their children about their beginnings at early age. Developing a narrative for your child can be extremely valuable to all members of the family and can help children develop a strong sense of self and confidence about their origins.
After you have told your child about his origins, the next step is to help your child learn how to disclose his donor or adoption information to family and friends in a way that takes into account his unique circumstance and personality. This program can be implemented with children as young as five and through adolescence. The TIP TOP program will help your child cope in a world where adoption and gamete donation are still misunderstood concepts.
These ebooks are an introduction to the program. As you implement the program you are educating and encouraging your child to feel good about who he is and positioning yourself as your child’s ally so you can keep the door open for more communication in the future.
The Tip Top Program – Donor Gamete eBook
Just as adoption has become more mainstream in the past fifty years, gamete donation will likely become more common too. For the moment, however, this technology is only addressed occasionally in the mainstream media. Although ovum donation has been in existence since 1984, and sperm donation has been around for more than one hundred years, gamete donation continues to be a mystery to many. Yet, it is a reality for your child.
Download the Tip Top Program eBook to learn strategies help your child cope in a world where gamete donation is still often a foreign concept.
Tip Top Program – Adoption eBook
The TIP-TOP program helps your child cope with his feelings about being adopted and gives him a roadmap for deciding when and with whom he wants to disclose information. Fortunately, the world is a different place than it was decades ago. So although disclosure issues are no longer stigmatized, they are still a choice over which your child should have control. Preparing your child for those experiences is a valuable gift. It communicates that your love and concern for him overrides any anxiety you have about adoption issues.
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Gestational Carrier Video Package
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How to Choose a Donor
In this webinar, you will learn:
- Common triggers in the process of choosing a donor
- Ways to understand your donor or choose a donor in a thoughtful way that considers practical information and your family values
- How to use the information you learn about your donor for your future child
Lisa’s Amazon Recommendation List
Below are a few of my favorite books and products, click on the titles to order. Please feel free to contact us for updates.
Schuman, Lisa. (2017) My Lifebook: A Pre-Baby book
For families built with donor eggs, donor sperm, surrogacy or through adoption
Very Early Childhood/ Diversity Training (baby+)
Parr, Todd. (2001) THE FAMILY BOOK
Parr, Todd. (2009) IT'S OKAY TO BE DIFFERENT
Early Childhood(18 months +)
Gordon, Elaine (1992) MOMMY, DID I GROW IN YOUR TUMMY? WHERE SOME BABIES COME FROM
Includes information about the gifts of egg donation, sperm donation, and adoption
Celcer, Irene. (2007) HOPE AND WILL HAVE A BABY
Includes the gifts of egg donation, sperm donation, and surrogacy
Margolis, Amy. (2006) BUTTERFLIES AND MAGICAL WINGS
Includes the gift of egg donation
Kluger-Bell. (2012) THE PEA THAT WAS ME
This book is available in donor egg, donor sperm, two mom, IVF versions
Phillips, Sarah. (2007) THE KANGAROO POUCH: A STORY ABOUT SURROGACY FOR YOUNG CHILDREN
Kluger-Bell, Kimberly. (2013) THE VERY KIND KOALA: A SURROGACY STORY FOR CHILDREN
Nadel, Carolina. (2007) DADDY, WAS MOMMY’S TUMMY BIG?
Explains the donor insemination process
Eichberg, Carrie (2017) BUILDING MY FAMILY: A STORY OF EGG DONATION AND SURROGACY
Early to pre-teen
Specific to Gay Couples or Single Men
De Haan, Linda. (2003) KING AND KING
Greenberg, Keith. (1996) ZACK’S STORY: GROWING UP WITH SAME-SEX PARENTS
Valentine, Johnny. (2004) ONE DAD, TWO DADS, BROWN DAD, BLUE DADS
Parr, Todd. (2015) THE DADDY BOOK
Pinkas, Shosh. (2013) GAL AND NOA’S DADDIES
Specific to Lesbian Couples or Single Women
Garden, Nancy. (2000) HOLLY'S SECRET
Newman, Leslea & Souza, Diane. (2000) HEATHER HAS TWO MOMMIES
Newman, Leslea (2009) MOMMY, MAMA AND ME
Clay, George Anne. (2008) WHY DON’T I HAVE A DADDY: A STORY ABOUT DONOR CONCEPTION
Erin DeVore (2017) MAKING VIOLET: A SPERM DONOR STORY
For Parents and Parents To Be
Cooper, S. and Glazer, E. (1999) CHOOSING ASSISTED REPRODUCTION: SOCIAL, EMOTIONAL, AND ETHICAL CONSIDERATIONS
Ehrensaft, Diane (2005) MOMMIES, DADDIES, DONORS, SURROGATES: ANSWERING TOUGH QUESTIONS AND BUILDING STRONG FAMILIES
Glazer, Ellen (1998) THE LONG-AWAITED STORK: A GUIDE TO PARENTING AFTER INFERTILITY
Melina, Lois Ruskai. (1998) RAISING ADOPTED CHILDREN: PRACTICAL REASSURING ADVICE FOR EVERY ADOPTIVE PARENT
Kotb, Hoda. (2018) I'VE LOVED YOU SINCE FOREVER
Curtis, Jamie Lee. (2000) TELL ME AGAIN ABOUT THE NIGHT I WAS BORN
Parr, Todd. (2007) WE BELONG TOGETHER: A BOOK ABOUT ADOPTION AND FAMILIES
Kasza, Keiko. (1996) A MOTHER FOR CHOCO
Parnell, Peter (2015) AND TANGO MAKES THREE
Katz, Karen. (2001) OVER THE MOON: AN ADOPTION TALE
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