Taking Care of Your Family

Family Stories

Last weekend I had the privilege of running a program called “Family Stories” at the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center in New York City.  It was a wonderful workshop.  It included parts of our TIP TOP program for families who are built with the assistance of donor sperm or donor eggs or who…

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Give the gift of time

Give the gift of time and your children are more likely to give you the gift of willingness. Time is something we can not make more of. We take it for granted, and our children take it for granted, but whether we spend less or more time with our children can have a cumulative effect…

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Negotiate with your partner for a better family life

When you have children there are so many decisions to be made.  Do you feed on demand or on schedule, is breast milk important, is practicing religion important to your family traditions, etc..?  If problems arise the stakes get higher and emotions can become intensified.  The big and the small questions need negotiation and discussion…

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Having a guide can make the journey so much better.

This summer I took a hike with a guide in the Grand Canyon. I wanted to go on a guided hike because I thought I could learn about the Canyon. Much like having a guide in a museum, I thought having a Grand Canyon guide would help me understand things about the beauty and creation…

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Being Your Child’s Advocate: When “Just Try Harder” Doesn’t Work.

Despite the ever-widening public understanding and acceptance of emotional or learning differences, it is still difficult for parents to accept their child’s limitations.  For many reasons, we want our children to be “perfect” and so have an easier time in life.  Of course, it is understandable that we, as parents, would rather not have to endure…

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Non-genetic parenthood and your child’s birth story. Don’t personalize it.

Non-genetic parenthood is complicated.  As a result, disclosure to family, friends and the outside world, the way we see our children and their adoption or donor gamete experience, can all be fraught with emotions. In order to be effective in helping our children understand their origins and assimilate a positive narrative about their beginnings into…

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